For the first time in my life, my words have left me without my permission. They fly away like dandelion seeds in a gentle breeze and I worry they will never come back. My thoughts, a rolling royal blue- Black ocean in a storm that won’t seem to end. I’m lost, without a paddle and […]
What do I have to do for you to acknowledge my humanity? Read More »
It’s been a while since I posted the infamous chicken poll, and with moving I lost track of it. But, if you were surprised here is (part) of why I posted about it. We all learn from a variety of sources of how to live in the world and majority of the time we never
Do you wash your Chicken? Read More »
Oh no! You were called out on shitty behavior and now you not only feel ignorant, and silly, but possibly a lot of other feelings, including defensive. I’m not going to pull my punches in this post where I tell you what your next steps should be and how to not make things worse for the people
Called out! NOw, What? Read More »
“Don’t you fucking dare!” I mumbled to myself as I hear the question echoing in my head. “Do you know how to play wade in the water?” It’s my grandfathers funeral and I’m 7 in awe and bewitched by the magic of the singing around me. Through songs I could hear their morning, their grief,
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An early morning after yet another sleepless night, I went to local coffee shop to grab a pick me up before a full day of work. I anxiously ordered mocha ( my thoughtless choice) and carefully walked towards the back of the coffee shop. SCRRRREEEEEEEECH a shrill voice cuts the air. No. I thought. Please
Stop taking up so much space Read More »
As I sit before my computer and yet another online discussion, I’ve noticed yet again that there is a miscommunication about something that feels so obvious and basic to me that I simply kept hoping that eventually people would catch on. You haven’t. I’m too tired to explain this repeatedly throughout my life and instead
Dear white people: a Letter on Generalizations Read More »
In our scene, Black women are avoided. There is a reason why Black women are among the lowest demographic in the blues/swing dancing communities. And yet, thus far it’s something we’ve refused to talk about because we fear getting pushback for discussing it. So these discussions take place in small group chats and behind the
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I often get a lot of questions about interracial dating and why it’s so hard, confusing, and awkward. Below are two questions asked! “Are you able to talk about the difficulties that arise when a Black woman wants to date outside her race, how difficult it can be for guys outside her ethnicity to understand
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